Have you ever experienced an excruciating physical pain and wondered why it had to hurt so much? This is the type of pain that goes beyond a mere “ouch”. And what about the pain that digs deep into your emotions? The pain that breaks your heart and pulls at every part of your physical and emotional being. This could be pain that comes from a serious illness, a failed marriage or the loss of a loved one. And how about that deep pain we feel due to our own bad choices and subsequent regrets?
Have you ever cried out to the LORD and asked why does it hurt so much?
The pains we experience in life will sometimes cause us to withdraw from a particular activity and/or withdraw from people. There are some athletes who become injured playing their favorite sport. However, if they experience a torn ligament or broken limb, they may not feel up to returning to their sport for fear of being injured again and feeling that same unpleasant pain.
If you have ever experienced pain inflicted by another person, this could cause you to withdraw from building other friendships and keep you from trusting others. I have been in this situation a few times. I have believed someone was my friend only to find out they were doing things and saying things about me that would not meet the definition of friendship. I have fallen in love and been married only to feel the heartache that comes from harsh words and hurtful actions that caused my heart to break and my trust to be broken.
When you experience a deep hurtful pain, it’s only natural to wonder why does it have to hurt so much? With any pain, whether physical or emotional, there is a healing process. When you seek medical treatment you have to explain to the doctors and nurses what hurts and give them a level from 1 to 10 as to how much it hurts. You also have to follow the directions and orders given by the doctors and nurses in order to assist with the progression of your physical healing.
When you have experienced the pain that digs deep into your emotions, you can also seek counseling from a trained professional. Most of us tend to shy away from counseling because we feel it sends a message something is wrong with us. This should be a matter of choice for you and perhaps talking to someone on a regular basis is just what you need to help with your healing. Trying to go it alone may not be the answer for you, so hopefully there is a ministry or a person within your church that you can call on to help with your healing process.
When I have experienced that deep pain and wondered why did it have to hurt so much, I have trusted in the Lord. I know the hurt I feel will eventually go away, but I also know that it has also made me stronger. I have survived the abuse; I have survived the ridicule; I have survived the disappointments and I have survived the dishonesty. I have survived the brokenness! I can talk to God better than I can talk to anyone else and I know He listens to me even though He already knows what I am going to say. I know He cares for me and He wants me to trust Him with all of my heart and soul.
Psalm 51:17 says “The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, thou will not despise.”
When I have wondered, why it hurt so much, I am reminded of Jesus. I know that the beating He took, the carrying of the cross and being nailed to the cross had to hurt. I know that the sneers from the crowd and the crown of thorns on His head caused Him some pain. But, He endured that pain for me. So when I am hurting and I am wondering why, I pull my strength from my Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ. I know that although my tears are flowing, He will give me joy in the morning. I can wonder why it hurts, but I know the pain is what will draw me closer to Him.
I was broken and He restored me!